My conversation with Julie in my previous post reminded me of a couple of quotes by Sam Keen from his books "Fire in the Belly" and "To love and be Loved"

There are two questions we must ask ourselves. The first is, where am I going and the second is who will go with me. If we ever get these questions in the wrong order then we are in trouble...and...How do I choose my rightful partner before I ask how do I become a loving person the result will be disaster because I will fail to focus my attention on acquiring and developing the skills necessary for becoming a loving human being. First cultivate a life filled with compassion and passion will be added to it. Search only for great passion and you will finally despair of life.